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wellgreathereiam
billnihilism

We really have harmed a whole generation of trans and gnc children by failing to communicate how serious a decision binding actually is, how there’s no ACTUALLY safe way to bind, how it permeneantly damages the body, how it can make top surgery more difficult in the future. I don’t think we should be keeping trans kids from binding (we let kids do all sorts of things they’re really not old enough to understand the potential consequences of) but we owe them the ability to make informed decisions at LEAST

disembodied-doll

So this is definitely an important conversation to have, but can you point me at some reading about “permanent damage”? I might just be lucky, but I had zero lasting effects from binding. I’d like to at least read up on it so I can have this conversation and be more specific than “be careful.”

billnihilism

Of course! I can’t easily source right now but I am more than happy to provide further info when I am not at work and on mobile. Unfortunately, like a lot of trans healthcare, a lot of what we know about binding is anecdotal and word of mouth. BUT permeneant damage can include:

-Musculoskeletal damage. Binders are indiscriminate compression tools; they can’t flatten the chest without applying pressure every other anatomical structure underneath including the spine, ribs, lungs and heart. Many people who bind experience chronic back pain, shoulder pain, sharp stabbing chest pains, permeneantly decreased lung capacity, literal spine deformation, etc etc.

-A continuation of the above but the ribs are actually jointed bones. Their ability to flex is absolutely vital to their ability to withstand trauma and protect your vital organs. Imagine the damage that would be done to your elbow if your bent your arm to full flexion and then tightly bound it closed like that, for six, eight, twelve hours per day, every day, for weeks or months or years. And you don’t NEED a functioning arm to live!

-Tissue atrophy. Forcing chest tissue to lay in an unnatural way can and will change the way that tissue looks, even to risk of atrophy. Some people who bind and only moderately dislike the way their chest looks find that they HATE the way it looks after binding for a period of time. Tissue atrophy can also make top surgery more difficult in the future, and increase the risk of complications like nerve damage.

-Worsened dysphoria. Once someone starts binding and becomes accustomed to seeing themselves with a flat chest, it can be much more difficult to see yourself without one, and dysphoria that much more intolerable. You can imagine the psychological feedback loop of binding more in response.

The typical safety measures passed around about binding are harm REDUCTION measures and should not be advertised as making binding “safe.” Binding is not safe. It is a very serious health decision with long term consequences and should be treated as such. That doesn’t mean it’s the wrong decision, but it should not be considered the DEFAULT decision for chest dysphoria which is frankly how it’s currently treated.

mikstapes

gonna drop some links to read more:

Health impact of chest binding among transgender adults: a community-engaged, cross-sectional study

Inside the Landmark, Long Overdue Study on Chest Binding  

Binding FAQ

Health Consequences of Chest Binding

alolancharmander

@pooflyperfectprincess

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wellgreathereiam

I went to the Philadelphia Trans Health Conference and went to a workshop held by a chiropractor who works with trans men (as well as being a trans man himself), so I’m going to pass on his advice to people who bind:

Stretch your chest, shoulders, and back everyday (at least)

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This is a passive stretch where you place a foam roller at the bottom of your spine (to support your hips and lower back), and lifts your shoulders off of the ground, with your arms on the ground to balance you.

This stretch is meant to be held for a few minutes, open up your chest, and aid your everyday posture.

You probably don’t own a foam roller, he advised to wrap a towel or blanket very tightly and tied as a substitute. I use a layer of bed foam rolled up with two belts to keep it rolled. Whatever you use, it ought to have a bit of give and it needs to lift your shoulders off the ground. (Check dollar stores like 5 Below for reasonably priced rollers, make sure they are big enough to lift your shoulders tho.)

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This is an active stretch. Stand in front of a doorway with your feet together (if the door way was not there, your toes would be touching the wall, not crossing through it). When you lift your arms up and put them against the wall, your feet, hips, and arms should all be in line with each other (your arms should not be behind you with your feet and hips in the doorway).

Make a “W” shape with your arms against the wall so that your elbows are the closest part of your arm to the ground, and take one small step forward.

You should feel a pull in your lower shoulders, but it should be comfortable to hold. Do not over stretch, you shouldn’t be leaning your weight into your arms to balance, your weight should be balanced by your legs. Do not judge yourself and think you are doing yourself a favor by thinking that you ought to have a bigger step. Sure, you could overstretch today, but you need to be able to do this tomorrow too! Hold this for 10-15 seconds. (Yet again. Do. Not. Overstretch.)

Bring your feet back together, and do it the other foot. There will probably be one foot that is easier than the other, stretch that step more often than the less difficult step.

Bring your feet together and bring your elbows up so that your upper arms are parallel to the ground and your elbow forms a 90° angle with your forearms. Take your small step forward and hold for 10-15 seconds and switch feet.

Now reach your arms up as high as you can. It doesn’t have to be much higher than the last stretch, if that is as high as you can go, then that’s it. If you can’t reach higher than the last stretch, put your arms down at your sides and then lift your arms up from your sides and put them against the wall (sorry he didn’t include a picture of this one in the slides, message me if this is unclear.)

Your goal is to be able to reach your arms up like in the picture so that you form a Y shape. Step forward and hold for 10-15 seconds, then switch feet.

His advice was to do this stretch as often as you use the bathroom at home (shoot for 3-5 times a day).

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The next two stretchs don’t have pictures! If you can do these stretches with ease and want a more intense version, try using dumbbells and incorporating it into your workouts.

If you’ve ever done snow angels? Put your heels, butt, shoulders, and arms up against a wall (as much of your body as you possibly can should be touching the wall) and lift your arms up as high as you can go like you are making a snow angel.

Alternatively, lay down on the ground instead of up against a wall if you need to work your way up to lifting your arms above your head.

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Again, with your body up against the wall, but this time with your arms in front of you, bring your arms up like Frankenstein’s monster, so that they are as high as your shoulders. Hold this for a few seconds.

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After trying these stretchs, it’ll probably be clear where your range of motion is most limited. For me, the most useful stretches are the W and 90° angle doorway stretch and foam roller stretch, bc I have the most trouble with my lower shoulders and chest. Try to maintain your range of motion where you have it, and use these stretches to improve your range of motion where you are limited.

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Anonymous asked:

I'm a closeted trans dude and once i graduate, i want to transition. But I'm worried about body fat redistribution, since for the most part, don't hate my thick thighs. I'm worried it'll redistribute it to my stomach and i struggle with an eating disorder so i really would like to be able to keep that one specific area the same, or pretty damn close. Is there anything I can do?

I want to say, first off, that you’re not alone in that fear. I struggled with an eating disorder for years, and even now after the struggle is over, it’s something that I’m going to cope with for the rest of my life. 
However, my outlook on eating and on my body have changed wildly since transitioning. 

While it’s true that your fat distribution will be changing to a more male pattern, it’ll be your body’s pattern.
It’s a slower process (than the obvious stuff in the first month), and you have to take into account that you’re likely going to have broader shoulders and an easier time gaining muscle/losing fat.
If your thighs are thick, and you like them that way, you can start exercising those muscles to maintain that feature.

I’ve worked hard to turn the energy I used to spend worrying about having the Perfect Female Body™ into energy to have a body I’m happy with. 
While I still don’t have a great relationship with food, I look at it as fuel for my muscles and my body as a whole. I need to eat if I want to be happy with my body. 

I really hope that this was at least somewhat helpful, but if anybody wants to talk about their worries about HRT, self image, or eating disorders, don’t hesitate to privately message on my personal trans tumblr here.

-Sydney

Anonymous asked:

I go to a catholic school and no one except my friends know I am bisexual and I am slowly transitioning into a boy, And I want to get my hair cut short and I want to wear a binder and express myself, But I know that sometimes the Catholic faith isn't always that accepting, What should I do?

You should talk to your school councilor, as they should be unbiased, and gauge their response. From there, you’ll know whether or not your school in particular will allow you to be yourself. 
If your school is accepting of this, your councilor can help you with transitioning socially with teachers, and possibly with uniform.
If that doesn’t work out, it’s possible that you may need to change schools in order to be yourself. This can be difficult depending on your relationship with your parents.

If you find that you experience push-back from your school, and you are a person of faith, please try to remember that your existence is not sinful.
People in positions of power (teachers, school staff, parents, etc) who use faith to justify having bigoted feelings about gender, sexuality, race, religion, or ability are doing just that. They are using faith, not having it.

-Sydney 

witchytransboy
witchytransboy:
“☆ 1 Year, 4 Months on T ☆
A. This shirt was $5 in the boy’s clearance. I’m a boy’s XL until further notice
2. I’m getting periareolar top surgery on Tuesday!
I will be blogging generally about things during my recovery period,...
witchytransboy

☆ 1 Year, 4 Months on T ☆

A. This shirt was $5 in the boy’s clearance. I’m a boy’s XL until further notice

2. I’m getting periareolar top surgery on Tuesday!
I will be blogging generally about things during my recovery period, because I’ll be bored af.
Be prepared for garbage posts all month long

the-guyed-guy

Hey guys! I’m getting top surgery Tuesday (tomorrow, 07/08/2018), so I’ll be posting pre and post surgery guides after my recovery period, as well as sharing significant details here ♡

-Sydney

Anonymous asked:

My brother told me that people in middle school as high school that are like genderfluid and stuff are just subconsciously looking for attention, and my parents often say more transphobic things and make me look feminine. I'm a demiboy and this makes me extremely uncomfortable and often it results in dysphoria. I'm in middle school and I'm scared I'm doing that, but at the same time I need help on how to appear more masculine, and people mock my preferred name at school. (It's Aris) Any tips?

I’m sorry you’re going through that, fam. I’m sorry I don’t have much advice for that. the best I can say is just wait it out. if you keep correcting them and stand up for yourself, they might come around eventually.

- Jonah

Anonymous asked:

is it normal for a straight ftm guy feel pressured into going back to the lesbian community? Recently, I've been seeing so much negativity against transgender people saying they are not real "men" or "women" (especially on this dumb website) and there's no such thing. I was debating whether to just going back to identifying as a lesbian and dress as I please. But I still have what is considered "dysphoria". I'm still in the closet, so nobody knows anything yet. Help?

can’t say I haven’t been there, honestly…

do what you think will make you most comfortable. if you would be most comfortable with people still seeing you as a Lesbian, you should go back there. if you want people to see you as a guy, you should continue to do that. I’ve heard of some lesbians even transitioning to look more masculine (Testosterone, chest surgery) too so if your dysphoria is mainly physical and not social, you might not have as much of a problem with that.

however, you shouldn’t base this just on negative people. there’s always going to be someone telling you stuff like that just because they aren’t content in their own lives. live your life the way you want to. as long as you aren’t directly harming anyone, there shouldn’t be a problem. good luck. I hope whatever you decide on makes you the happiest

- Jonah

Anonymous asked:

How do I come out? Like I feel that I have come to a good point where I feel like I could tell my friend, but I'm afraid that she'll start asking questions that I won't know how to answer. I am very bad at conversations and speaking what my mind thinks and get very anxious when it comes to talking to people. She knows about transgender people I think, but I'm afraid she won't believe me.

there are a tons of different ways to come out. - writing it down
- calling them on a phone
- sitting down to talk to them about it
or my favorite
- joking about it until they just kinda pick up on it

there’s a lot more but those are the main categories.

I’m back!

Hey y'all sorry for the disappearance! I’m going to start being more active on here and helping out a bit more.

Some changes that have happened for me since I went on that hiatus are

- I changed my name from Jesse to Jonah

- I started T on April 14th, 2018

- I started using minoxidil on my face to help facial hair growth (and it’s working which is really nice)


I’m happy I can be back!

Jonah

Anonymous asked:

I want to start taking T & get top surgery done at some point, but I'm not sure if I want to transition "down there". Does that make me a bad man or anything, for lack of a better term?

Absolutely not, it does not make you a bad man.
I’m a year into my HRT, and I’m going to be getting top surgery soon, but I have no intention of getting bottom surgery. It doesn’t make you any less of a man, my dude.
Every trans guy is going to need different things from their transition, and that’s okay. This is about you, as an individual.

-Sydney